How to Rebound After a Crap Week


This year sure didn’t pull any punches. You hangin’ in there alright, lady? It’s a confusing time right now, and there’s so much to try and wrap our heads around as we all try and figure out what the future is going to look like. We put together a list of proactive measures you could take to stay engaged a few days ago, but at the start of this new week, as developments continue, we wanted to keep the conversation going. We want to make sure you’re taking care of yourself now and at any point you come up against a tough week. Because you can’t take care of others if you’re not taking care of yourself, and here’s the truth of the matter: We all need you. 

The world needs more women like you. 

So, we’ve put together a few things we hope will set you on the path to feeling OK again if you’re feeling down, and to eventually feeling re-energized and ready to get back out there to make some beautiful messes. Read up and take care, sweet thing. We’ve got a lot of work to do.

Step 1: Self-care. Self-care. Self-care. 

Are you getting enough sleep? (Well, no, of course not.) But try and make a concerted effort to wind down at night so you have a shot at getting enough shut eye. Promise yourself you’ll stay off social media for two hours (OK, fine, one hour) before you go to bed. Maybe don’t even watch TV. Switch things up and read some poetry; it’s concentrated, quick bursts of beauty that can be transporting. Here are some awesome feminist poets: Adrienne Rich, Claudia Rankine, Elizabeth Bishop, Sylvia Plath, Victoria Redel, Warsan Shire

Listen to some mother-effing Sade. Watch Kate McKinnon’s performance of the late Leonard Cohen’s “Hallelujah” on the most recent episode of Saturday Night Live.

Take a bath. Finally use those bath beads you’ve been saving for a special occasion. Pour the contents of a perfume sample in there. Take all those candles you never light and light them and put them around your tub. Give yourself a facial; you can even make your own mask from stuff you probably have at home. Don’t have a bath? Plan some time in the steam room or spa at the gym; for all those times that you’ve told yourself “I should really use that more often,” there’s no time like the present.

Buy yourself some flowers. Wine. Ice cream. Cheese. Eat it straight off the block. 

Step 2: Get fired up again.

Is that head-full-of-cotton feeling dissipating? Good. Now it’s time to get re-inspired. 

Revel in the gloriousness of the latest Michelle Obama cover story in the new issue of Vogue

Read this incredible piece by VICE COO and former Deputy Chief of Staff for President Obama (and Girlboss Radio guest!) Alyssa Mastromonaco: “A Letter to Young Women: How We Will All Move Forward Together Now”.

Recommit to your schedule or draw up a new one. Get back in the habit of knocking your to-do list out. Get back in touch with that goal of waking up a little earlier. Get on the Girlboss insta feed and pick out some of your favorite quotes. Write them out by hand on notecards. Tape them to the walls of your workspace so you see them every day. 

Surround yourself with your friends that are feeling the same way you are right now. Share links and videos that have helped you out of this and talk it all out. Tell your crew that you love them and that you're proud of them and that you’re going to work for each other every day. 

Step 3: Stay fired up.

Is that fire in your belly starting to rekindle? (We knew it would.) 

Do you have a younger sister or a cousin or any other little girls in your life? Be the badass they need to see in front of their own eyes. Remind them that there’s nothing they can’t do.

Stay in touch with your friends and hold each other accountable. It’s OK to be angry for as long as it lasts, but hold each other accountable for turning that anger into action. 

Share your story and your vision. Tweet us or Instagram your #girlbossmoment this week. We want to hear it. 

Work at the life you want to live every day. 

Talk yourself out of excuses. 

Produce fearlessly. 

Leap forward. 

Be kind and practice compassion all the while. 

Be the relentless champion of your own life. 

Keep your eye on the prize. Eye. On. The. Prize. 

(We’re rooting for you.)

 by @deenadrewis